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THE DRAMA TRIANGLE
Let's slice through the everyday soap opera that is the Drama Triangle—a psychological game you don't even know you're a part of. It’s the chessboard of dysfunctional relationships with three key players: the victim, the persecutor, and the rescuer. Each locked in a dance of dysfunction, each feeding off and into a cycle that's as old as human interaction itself.
The victim, draped in a cloak of suffering and complaint, thrives on the currency of pity, fear, and shame. They're the center of their own tragedy, drawing in the energies of those around them to fuel their narrative.
Then you’ve got the persecutor, the antagonist in this plot, pointing fingers with a fiery blend of anger and irritation. They're the ones spinning the drama, setting the stage for their next emotional showdown.
And who swoops in but the rescuer? This character plays the hero, the protector. But here's the kicker: their brand of salvation is laced with their own need—a need to be needed, often intensifying the victim's helplessness rather than empowering them.
Why do these roles stick? It's simple. They're addictive. Each role feeds into a need, an identity, and let’s face it, an excuse. They switch masks, but the play remains the same.
Imagine this scene: your colleague misses a deadline, and now you're all staying late. They play the victim, "I'm overwhelmed," they sigh. You jump into rescuer mode, "I'll help you out." Meanwhile, your boss plays the persecutor, "This is unacceptable." It’s a merry-go-round of blame, excuses, and short-term fixes.
The takeaway? This triangle doesn't solve problems; it just keeps the actors busy, trapped in their roles, losing touch with the plot. The real move? Step out of the play. Be the author, not a character. Write new scripts, new roles, new endings. And maybe, just maybe, you'll turn that Drama Triangle into a launchpad for growth. Because when you stop auditioning for these parts, you start living a life that's worth, not just a watch, but a standing ovation.
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