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Monthly Love Letter

TRIGGER

Craving
initiator

ROUTINE

Behavior,
habit itself

REWARD

Positive
outcome

Habit/Year
4.9

Monthly Love Letter

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Christina Pikunov

SEP 02, 2024

At the start or end of each month, sit down and write a letter to your partner. In this letter, focus on the things you admire and appreciate about them. Share specific examples of moments that made you feel grateful, and acknowledge the qualities you love in them. Take your time to write thoughtfully and sincerely, and present the letter to them in a meaningful way—whether it’s left on their pillow, slipped into their bag, or handed over during a quiet moment together.
Monthly Love Letter

TRIGGER

Craving
initiator

ROUTINE

Behavior,
habit itself

REWARD

Positive
outcome

Triggers:

  • Start of the Month: Let the beginning of a new month remind you to write your letter. It’s a fresh start, a perfect time to reflect on the previous month.
  • Monthly Anniversary: If you have a special date (like the day you met or your wedding anniversary), use that as your trigger.
  • Calendar Reminder: Set a monthly reminder on your calendar to prompt you to take time for this special gesture.

Rewards:

  • Strengthened Bond: Regularly expressing your feelings through written words can deepen your emotional connection and strengthen your bond.
  • Increased Gratitude: Reflecting on your partner’s positive qualities will help you focus on the good in your relationship, fostering a sense of gratitude.
  • Enhanced Communication: This habit can open up more meaningful conversations and help you both feel more connected and understood.

Wellness:

EmotionalEnvironmentalFinancialIntellectualInterpersonalOccupationalPhysicalSpiritual

Notes:

Keep it Personal: Focus on specific qualities and moments that are unique to your partner and your relationship. The more personal, the more meaningful the letter will be.

Set the Mood: Choose a quiet, comfortable spot to write your letter. Light a candle, play some soft music, or sit in a place that holds special memories for both of you.

Don’t Overthink It: Write from the heart. It doesn’t have to be perfect—what matters is the sincerity and effort you put into it.

Be Consistent: Make this a monthly ritual. Consistency will make it a cherished tradition in your relationship.

Surprise Your Partner: Think of creative ways to deliver your letter. Whether it’s tucked into their book, placed in their lunchbox, or handed over during a cozy evening, the surprise adds to the joy.

Reflect Together: After your partner reads the letter, take a moment to talk about it. Reflect on the positive aspects of your relationship and discuss any thoughts or feelings that arise.

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